If nothing in your life ever changed from how it is right now, how many of you think you could be happier than you are right at this moment?
That question was posed by life coach Robert Holden during a conference, and every single person in the audience raised their hand. This points to a fundamental understanding that most of us live our lives as if its opposite were true.
Hmmm. I must think about that. If nothing changes, how could we possibly hope to be any happier? So, is our happiness dependent on getting or having what we want? Probably not, although we might feel fleeting happiness as winning the lottery or buying a new sofa.
It wouldn’t last and you’d wonder for the rest of your life if people hung out with you to get their hands on some of that money. And I can tell you from experience, buying a new sofa offers gratification for about two years, then you’re dying for another color or style.
Well-being is our natural state. It’s as much a part of our nature as the nose is a part of your body says Michael Neill in his newsletter this week.
Imagine how strange it would be if someone said "I want to hire you to help me get a nose. I used to have one when I was younger, but then some bad things happened to me and I lost it.”
“I’ve heard that a lot of people found their nose when they became self-employed,” said Neill. “Do you think I should change my job? What about my relationship? I thought that I finally found my nose when we first got together in a while I realized it wasn’t working so I’m thinking of trying again with somebody else."
When you understand that well-being is not something you have to go out and find and not something you can ever really lose, you discover a deeper sense of peace – a kind of an easy, comfortable contentment that doesn’t go away just because bad things happen. And in a way, that’s what well-being really is – a sense of all being well, no matter what happens to be going on in your life.
Discovering that you have cancer and months to live – THAT would be a reminder you had a nose all along and and took it for granted.